I Gave My Quantity to a Postman I Had a Crush on. We’re Married Now.

Just a few years in the past, whereas residing on Kaua’i, I had a monthslong crush on a postman. It had develop into a relentless supply of leisure for me and my closest pals. He was a tall and good-looking man with a grey beard, and there was one thing about him that intrigued me.

There was an indescribable air to him, a peaceful kindness that drew me to him. I realized that his first title was Uriah, and from some discreet reconnaissance, realized that he was single, however aside from that, he was a clean slate. Once I’d see him, I might clam up like a nervous adolescent, all social graces viciously abandoning me and leaving me speechless.

Sooner or later, I lastly summoned my nerve and scribbled a self-deprecating observe with my cellphone quantity on a scrap of paper. I taped it inside my PO field along with his title on the surface and drove dwelling with a thousand butterflies filling my insides with each anxiousness and exhilaration.

I believed I used to be getting rejected at first

Virtually two weeks handed, and I had quietly accepted that he wasn’t . I had a number of slips for packages I had been assiduously ignoring, mildly humiliated by the rejection and reluctant to return to the put up workplace. Ultimately, although, I made a decision to behave like an grownup and go retrieve my mail.

To my aid, one of many different guys was working the counter, and I handed him my yellow bundle slip. Uriah instantly emerged from the again workplace, made a beeline for the counter, and took the slip out of his colleague’s hand. Our eyes met, and when he introduced my packages again, he shyly advised me he’d name me. Apparently, he hadn’t identified who I used to be till that day. He referred to as that night time.

He advised a stranger on a ferry he was going to make me his spouse

Our first date was going to Ke’e Seashore to look at the sundown, and issues moved rapidly after. It was April, and I used to be leaving on the finish of Might to spend six weeks in Europe. I opened the exclusivity dialogue once we had been speaking about my upcoming journey, and I advised him I wasn’t going to see different folks, however I understood if he did. He advised me, “Julia, not solely do I not wish to see different folks when you’re in Europe, I do not suppose I wish to see different folks once more in any respect.”

This was a couple of month after our first date, and whereas his phrases stuffed me with happiness, I made certain to elucidate that whereas I might like to spend my life with him, I did not wish to get married, and I by no means had. He stated he had by no means needed to get married earlier than both, however now he had modified his thoughts. As calm and type as ever, he stated he knew I might come round.

Once I was leaving Hawai’i for Europe, he flew with me to New England to satisfy my household. After just a few drinks at The Oar and Yellow Kittens on Block Island, on the ferry dwelling, I heard him inform some guys he had simply met that he was going to marry me. I simply smiled and rolled my eyes.

I noticed marriage as an excuse for complacency, however he modified all the things

I might by no means seen marriage as a union I needed to enter into, as a result of I noticed {couples} dedicating much less power to the connection as soon as it was authorized. I witnessed folks cease making an attempt as arduous, taking each other as a right. When Uriah proposed in a tent in Maui six months after our first date, he had a picket ring in his hand that he had carved himself. It was just a few days earlier than his forty second birthday; we had taken the journey to Maui to rejoice. I had turned 41 just a few months earlier, in July.

He defined (on one knee in a chilly tent on a mountain) that the ring would not final, that it could break each few months, and every time he would carve me a brand new one. He advised me that it was symbolic of his devotion to by no means turning into complacent, that he would by no means cease making an attempt his finest to make me comfortable. In fact, I stated sure.

After we married, we moved 8,000 miles away

Three months later, in February 2024, we eloped on the identical seaside on Kaua’i the place we had our first date. We had a second marriage ceremony that spring and rented a home in Sicily to have a celebration in entrance of our households. Whereas we traveled across the Mediterranean on our honeymoon final summer season, we fell in love with the island of Sardinia and determined to begin a brand new life there.

We give up our jobs, I liquidated my inventory portfolio, and we purchased a 325-year-old home in Bosa to open as a mattress and breakfast, a longtime dream I might by no means fairly had the braveness to pursue. In 18 months, we went from being single and residing in Hawai’i to married and residing in Italy. I am on my third picket ring, and each has been extra stunning than the final.